Are New York career women really as nasty as they look in pictures?

Question

These Sex and the City types who look like they don't eat and work out all the time, with hard, gaunt faces, engineered hair, and stiletto heels. Is it just an illusion? I like in Toronto, Canada where most of the women look reasonably well fed (I'm a 5'6 size 6 myself, neither fat nor skinny IMO). I was raised in country too where people are fat and easygoing, have bush parties and drive around in pickup trucks. The work that I want to do would likely bring me to New York in the future, but when I look up company websites and see these women's faces staring back at me it makes me kind of nervous.

Answer 1

As a gross generalization it's fair to say that New Yorkers are slimmer than most other Americans, are more likely to wear "high fashion" nonsense like stilettoes, and are more competitive or ambitious in mindset. However, Sex and the City is NOT reality (nor is Lipstick Jungle or Gossip Girls or Law and Order or Ugly Betty or any other show that may be coming down the pike purporting to show "what New York is like"), and this is a diverse city of over 8 million people -- quite a lot of us are overweight, do not make any attempt to conform to fashion trends, and act quite easygoing.

Answer 2

I think we are like women anywhere else. I don't think "Sex in the City" is at all a model of women in NY, the only thing that I can say it shows is that NY women do make friends and do remain friends and do go shopping together and do go to lunch together, which I think is a good thing. We are not at all into clothing to the extent they were, who could afford it, nor do we party like they do, we need to sleep. We don't make that much money and we have to get up for work. We come in all sizes and shapes and colors. Some smile more, some are bossy, some are shy, we are like anyone else, we just happen to live in NY, and yes, we are more driven then a lot of other people, because there are more people out there trying to get our jobs, so we may get a little pushy. But eat, our favorite pass time. And yes a lot of women walk around in their Manolos, usually they have one pair and didn't eat for a week or found a sale and fought for them, remember we do have one of the 2 stores in the world and they have 2 sales a year and people stand on line forever. Some people work out, some don't. You say you are 5'6' and a size 6, I would say you were thin, so I don't understand what your problem is, I find that to be on the small side, as I think your sizes are the same as ours, so you can definetly come on down here and not worry, you are not going to stick out like a sore thumb and look like orca the white whale, you will be fine. Have you ever seen the TV show "How I met Your Mother", It stars one Canadian mixed in with a bunch of Americans and how she copes, and it shows the differences and how she finds some of the differences funny and some odd, but she manages. I'm sure you would be the same, NY isn't that hard a place to deal with, don't be afraid, we really are quite nice, and we really don't mind people from all over the world. Come and see.

Answer 3

Yea they have people like that of course! But for the most part everyone is normal. You have to think that its a VERY Cosmo City. Everyone is looking to look their best. Women have opportunities that they never had before. I think Sex and the City is the manifestation of that ideology! It could be a bit exaggerated, but not by much. You get a bit of everything here...and you wouldn't know if they were like that anyway unless you were close friends with them rather then co-workers. Don't be nervous to come here, we are actually friendly (maybe not as much as Canada though!) LOL

Answer 4

I live in New York, and yeah, i guess there are people that partially meet that criteria. I havn't met anyone stick thin or whatever, the way you describe. But even if they do look like that, with the heels, and hair and whatever, most of them are nice. Trust me, if your nice to us, we don't bite.;)