Been a decade since i was a nu yawka, but here's some tips:
Cattyshack
249 Fourth Ave., Park Slope, Brooklyn, 718-230-5740
This two-story playland owned by Meow Mix’s Brooke Webster has given New York’s moribund dyke nightlife a much-needed shot in the arm. The weekend parties, which feature thong-clad girls writhing on stripper poles, are hip enough to pull in a mix of faux-hawks, bridge-and-tunnel singles, celesbians, and even a spattering of boys. The huge roof deck—there’s a line in summer—divey downstairs dance floor, and multiroomed second-story lounge let girls hook up, get down, and see and be seen, all under one roof.
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Twenty-something slacker babes hang at Meow Mix, New York's newest lesbian bar, art, and performance space. Catch lesbian rock band performances, dance to your favorite '70s hits or glimpse celebrities who sometimes drop in, such as Chastity Bono and Ellen De Generes. 269 E. Houston at Suffolk. Tel: 212-673-9143.
Rubyfruit Bar & Grill is a cozy spot that sports a crown motif, comfy couches and a down-to-earth crowd of women. Celebs including Melissa Etheridge and Martina Navratilova have hung out in the bar upstairs. 531 Hudson St., Tel: 212-929-3343.
Henrietta Hudson is a West Village gathering spot that attracts a wide mix of lesbians, from professionals to grunge girls. Madonna has even stopped in to scout dancers for her Girlie Show. Be sure to greet Storme de Larverie, Henrietta's 70-something security girl and one of the first male impersonators to tour the country in the world-famous Jewel Box Review. 438 Hudson St. Tel: 212-924-3347.
Also in the West Village, just around the corner from hopping gay restaurant Universal Grill and a five-minute walk from Henrietta Hudson, you'll find Crazy Nanny's. Nanny's is a popular two-level bar with dance floor and pool table that attracts a down-to-earth, diverse crowd, from rock-and-roll chicks to celebratory softball team members. On weekends Nanny's is usually packed (cover varies), and on some nights patrons can enjoy live entertainment.
When you think of Julie's, think pastels and suburban living. This diminutive bar, which could double for a Holiday Inn lounge near an airport, is where midtown office managers stop for a drink before the trek home to New Jersey. 204 E. 58th St. Tel: 212-688-1294.
At Clit Club, the music is hot and the women are hotter. Women of all ages and sizes shed their blouses and sweat on the packed dance floor. Go-go dancers groove on the main bar, and in the dimly lit basement you'll find racy videos and a pool table. 432 W. 14th St. Tel: 212-529-3300.
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There's a start. Make one hook-up at any of the above, and you'll have a guide to the rest of the scene.